When you have trouble figuring out how to start a conversation on dates or with social groups isn’t it frustrating sometimes? You know, where you might say something, you get a response and it seems like a dead-end road from there?

Figuring out how to start conversation increases your likability factor whether you’re on a date or with social groups.

Conversation is less of a mechanical approach and is more about connecting abstract ideas together.

When you have a break in your conversation because you’re trying think along the lines of what was said before, that’s mechanical. And because of that you don’t know what to talk about next. You’ll destroy every conversation topic out there if you’re using mechanical response.

Whereas there’s another method where you have a topic and can branch out smoothly to any other subject, it’s what I call “abstract method”.

It can be the most BORING topic like the rainy weather outside. Would you know what to say next? Well you know there’s this place up on the mountains I’m not sure where. But it’s shaped like a massive brick, a plateau. It basically rains there 24/7 like a tropical jungle. Just to get away I’d love to have a little hut up there. It was on msn.com as one of the top exotic places for vacation.

Since we’re on travel destinations, where would you wana go for vacation?

From the party life of Cancun Mexico (you can talk about partying).

To Rome with its ancient historic architecture (And you get to talk about history).

From one topic to another you connect and transition in such a way. Now you become VERSATILE and you can talk about ANYTHING, this is when people become comfortable around you.

What you read is the extended version. You can even go from rainy weather to favorite vacations without that stuff in between. It depends on you and the amount of content you want in conversation.

The extended version is easier if you usually have trouble with conversation.

If you want to learn how to start a conversation ten times more effective than what I taught you here then consider checking out my ebook on social dynamics where I go in-depth on this topic.

Check out surfsocialwaves.com/blog to find out more.

Hope to see you on my blog,

Your friend,

Chris Chandra

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